Friday, December 28, 2012


Focus on the finish for the New Year!

Dear Supporters

With another year behind me I am looking forward to new opportunities; to meet new people, experience new challenges and execute new ideas. 2012 had many highs and lows for me, but I met them all with my “focus on the finish”. When I find that I am being engulfed by that feeling that I get when life brings too many challenges, I look to God to help me through the madness, when I reach out to Jesus he reminds me that I am never alone.  As my gift to you, as a token of Sisterhood, I want to share a prayer that I found in the “Prayers of a Godly Woman” Devotions and Prayers. This book never fails to inspire me and help me to face any new life struggles that might come my way; I hope it helps you as much as it help me! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

“Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both begins and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed, that exhilarating finish in and with God, he could put up with anything along the way: Cross, shame, whatever. And now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God.”
Hebrews 12:2

Ina Mae Greene Foundation-For My Sisters
......because the road to safety should not be a dead-end!


Monday, December 17, 2012

Our Heart is Broken!

                                                Emmanuel Dunand / AFP - Getty Images

Pray for the families who lost precious loved ones in the Connecticut shooting.

Let us also pray for change!

Friday, December 14, 2012

Are you facing the HOLIDAY BLUES?

I love Christmas it has always been my favorite time of the year. I like eggnog, all the baking and visiting with family and friends!  Getting together Christmas Eve and going to church, then Christmas day; dinner at my house and opening presents. I love it! But it seems that there are many events that are taking away from the spirit of this holiday and how we celebrate Christmas. For instance, we are politically incorrect to say Merry Christmas, it is Happy Holiday?  There cannot be a depiction of Christ birth in the manger in front of a church or in an office building because we do not want to insult the atheist in our community? The incessant searching for the “Real” date of the birth of Christ, and that December 25th is not the correct day to celebrate Christ?
Well, and please note that this is me speaking for me, we all have our own opinions and traditions, but I celebrate Christ birth every day, I don’t need a national holiday for that. Christmas, or the idea if it, is to celebrate the blessing of life, and share with the people you love your time, your blessings of good food and a few gifts that don’t need to be expensive to be enjoyed.
I know this is a new age with modern ideas, but can we not just hold on to this one simple pleasure, without the media hype and the arguing and bickering about what we are celebrating?
In the work we do at the Ina Mae Greene Foundation, we run across too many families that need help from generous people, otherwise on this day or any other day, they might not have a nice meal with family, or have the option to exchange gifts with friends because they have no home to celebrate in! These women are forced to leave their families behind simply to stay alive, so just being in a warm and safe place is sadly all they can hope for.
So if you find that you are allowing yourself to get caught up in the hype and you are beginning to feel that Christmas is not a time for celebration, please let us remember to be grateful for what we have; the people around us who love us, a home, and hope for the future!
 AND please remember that we all have the love of God, no matter what. God is good and His love endures; He has promised His children the gift of eternal life!
So during this holiday although it can be hectic, confusing and discouraging, I want to remind you how precious life is, when in doubt please consider the words of Jesus.
 It was Christ who promised. “In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world”. This world is indeed a place of trials and tribulations, but as believers, we are secure. God has promised us peace, joy and eternal life. And of course, God always keeps His promises! So as you go through your day, coping with this busy holiday season, remember God’s words and reach out to someone who is less fortunate than you are, buy toys and donate them to a women’s shelter for the children who will not be in their own homes this Christmas. Have your church group, or women’s group purchase household goods for a women’s shelters, things like, laundry detergent, dish detergent, body wash, bath towels etc.
Many shelters have a wish list posted on their website that tells you what they need.
 If you have more questions about what to donate to shelter, please contact us at 214-412-3896, we will be happy to help you with a list of suggested items to donate. Your kindness will mean so much to the women and children who will spend their holiday away from family and friends. I promise you will feel better about the holidays. Working to help others makes me feel less stressed. Try it and see if you don’t feel better right away.  Let me know how you make it through this Christmas, drop me a note,, I would love to hear from you.

Thursday, November 15, 2012



Blood Relatives

For many weeks now I have been posting information on face book and twitter as well as talking to all of you about my upcoming book release.

Below are a few pages from my new book Blood Relatives. I want to give you a small introduction to the book that will be, perhaps, the most important book I will ever write. This book is an important weapon in our fight to raise awareness about relationship violence in our country. Unlike my first book, WHEN YOU LIVE IN FEAR, Blood Relatives is more than a self-help or “How To” book. It tells the story of my family, a family that had to overcome the cycle of domestic abuse or a “generational curse” if you will, in order to save the lives and the future of the young women in our family.
Blood Relatives is the true story about my aunt, my sister and my cousin, and the relationships that cost them all their lives, all three before their 30th birthdays. 
Three generations, three precious lives lost. I am going to post a few pages each week. To purchase the book you can go on line to our website,
 I hope you enjoy reading my story. I would love to hear from you. Please drop me a note at and share your thoughts and stories with me.





Oprah often used to say that there are always warning signs that alert us to potential “red flags” in matters of the heart. Some call it a “divine voice,” while others describe it simply as woman’s intuition.
Either way, we as women need to heed it. Far too often, love will cause that voice to be silenced when competing with the “pillow talk” and empty promises of a smooth talking man.
“I love you” and “It’ll never happen again,” serve like balm that heals wounds and causes temporary amnesia. Until the next time it happens…
Unfortunately, for millions of women, that NEXT time ends up being the LAST time. Such was the case with three special women in my life.
Relatives whose fairy tale romances sadly had a tragic ending. Ina Mae Greene, my sister of thirty years. My Aunt Minnie, also known as the black “Marilyn Monroe,” and a beloved cousin, Maggie, “Baby Sister” to her family and friends.
In sharing their stories, it is my hope to shed light on domestic violence, increase awareness, and honor their legacy, spirit, and beauty.
I cannot help my sister, cousin, nor my aunt now. They are lost to us forever; but I can help someone else’s loved one to leave a violent relationship safely.

“A fox is a wolf who sends flowers.”—Ruth Weston

Aunt Minnie

Minnie Lee and her sisters; Annie Mae my mother, Willa Mae, her oldest sister, Catherine the next oldest sister and Carrie Mae, the youngest sister, were very close and spent most of their spare time together. Because Aunt Minnie was the stylist in the family, she was the one responsible for all of their hair and make-up before they went out on a date or even to work. Yes, the Curtis sisters were a special group of women and everyone in the neighborhood knew it.
After Aunt Minnie graduated from high school in the 1950’s, she attended Beauty Culture School on the Northwest side of Chicago. Before she graduated from beauty school she had a job working as a shampoo girl at the beauty salon owned by our cousin Musset on the south side.
Also while she was in high school, she was befriended by a local business woman on the north side of Chicago.  Minnie's new friend also owned a beauty salon, located at Wells and Division, close to where my aunt was living at the time. Her name was  Ruby Dawson, (not her real name), Polly to her friends and family.
Not only was Polly a good friend, she was also a great mentor to my aunt through-out her career. She promised Minnie Lee a job as soon as she graduated from Beauty Culture School.  Although Miss Polly was being a loyal friend by keeping her word about giving my aunt a job, she was no fool, she knew how talented Minnie Lee was and that she was a living testimony to her work and talent.
Minnie was beautifully styled and always well groomed-- she was often referred to as the Black Marilyn Monroe in the neighborhood.
While out with Miss Polly one evening, my aunt met a man named Raymond Jessie. Meeting Raymond would change all of our lives forever. At the time she met Raymond she was still married but separated from her husband Robert Wright (Bobby to his friends).
Unfortunately, they had been separated for more than a year, and my aunt was still working thorough the emotional issues concerning her marriage.  She was not looking for a serious relationship, she simply wanted to have a good time.  She was not looking for a new husband or to get involved, just occasional dating. Raymond was not someone her family or her friends wanted her to date. He had a reputation for being short tempered and quick to anger; there were rumors that he often fought with the women he dated.
My aunt’s friend Polly begged her not to date Raymond. She was so persistent about not wanting her to date him, it was as if she knew something that she was afraid to tell my aunt. But she did share with her that it was rumored that Raymond was very possessive and aggressive toward the women he dated, his personality was quiet, brooding, and very controlling (not a good combination).
My aunt Minnie was young and was determined to make her own choices no matter how wrong they might seem to others. Minnie was in her late 20’s; she wanted to live her life on her own terms. She was not about to let anyone tell her how to live. So she went out with him anyway.
After the first couple of dates Raymond became very possessive, as Polly predicted, often following my aunt to work or just showing up when she was out with her friends or her sisters. She once commented, to my aunt Carrie Mae, that he was creepy to her and she did not like the fact that he would show up uninvited; she would look up and he would just be there!
My aunt stated to one of her sisters that Raymond's attention was beginning to make her uncomfortable. Although they didn't have a name for it back then Raymond's behavior today would be known as stalking.
Stalking is a crime of obsession, and is often associated with different types of psychopathology. By definition “Stalking is a repetitive pattern of unwanted, harassing or threatening behavior committed by one person against another...Acts include: telephone harassment, being followed, often receiving unwanted gifts, and other similar forms of intrusive behavior." (see reference list)
This was December of 1960, among other things going on in her life during this time, my uncle Bobby was talking to my aunt about giving their marriage another try; Aunt Minnie was definitely considering it. After almost two years of separation and going through different relationships, she found that all she wanted was to be with a man she could trust, one she knew loved her and accepted her for who she was.
Aunt Minnie was talking with Carrie Mae one afternoon while they were together planning Minnie’s birthday party. Minnie brought up Raymond and how he made her nervous and also that she did not like having him around her.
My aunt Carrie told her that she didn’t have to keep dating him, that it was her choice and also that everyone knew she and her husband were going to get back together even though she at this point had not voiced it.  The family knew she loved Uncle Bobby and that she wanted to get back together with him.
Raymond’s behavior was stalking, love obsessive stalking to be exact. We will discuss other types of stalking behavior, in detail, later in the following chapters. His desire was getting in the way of him seeing the truth about their relationship. The relationship was never meant to be a serious one, as they discussed before they began dating, just dating, nothing more. But in his mind, it was much much more and he wanted to prove it to her.
My aunt called Raymond after they had been dating about a month, remember they started to date in November and this was toward the end of December. Minnie wanted to let Raymond know that she was planning to give her marriage a second chance. She told him that she owed it to her marriage to give it another try. Raymond was very angry; he said that she could not just walk out on him like that!
My Aunt told Raymond that the relationship was over and that was the end of it. She also told him that she didn’t owe him anything and asked him not to call her, not to come by her job and not to follow her around anymore, it was over!………………….. Two weeks before my aunt had this conversation with Raymond, my Grandmother said to my mother, Annie Mae that she had a dream about Aunt Minnie and that in the dream she saw Aunt Minnie being killed. She couldn’t make sense of the dream so after leaving the salon one afternoon with Aunt Catherine, Aunt Willa Mae, Aunt Minnie and my grandmother suggested they go to a reader (dream interrupter) to help her make sense of the dream that would not let her rest.
Please remember that my grandmother grew up in the south in the 1800’s. Although I would not recommend this as a way of planning your future today-- it was not uncommon for the women of that time to go to “readers,” to interpret dreams and “read” for each other. There were women in the community who were well known for this and performed rituals, often as a service to the community. Typically these women were highly regarded members of the community.

The reader they went to see that day repeated most of what my grandmother said that she saw in the dream back to my grandmother. She said that she could see a man chasing my aunt and then killing her with a knife.
Needless to say that my aunt Minnie was very upset by this and told them all that she did not believe a word of what the reader had said,  that this woman was crazy, then she left the readers house in a huff.
Though she would never admit it to anyone, my aunt really was afraid because she knew that Raymond was angry. Minnie kept remembering that one of the last things he had said to her was that " was not over and she was not going to walk out on him like that, and that he would GET HER for this!"
Upset and frustrated, my aunt wanted to put all of this drama behind her. She had lots to look forward to: she was reuniting with the love of her life, she was seriously considering a job with American Airlines, (as one of the first African American flight attendants), which brought a world of possibility that she could only dream of, and she was going to have a huge birthday party soon. Yes, she had a lot to be happy about, and she was not about to let my grandmother’s dream and a crazy fortune teller spoil all this for her……..
Still my Grandmother was worried about Aunt Minnie. She couldn’t shake the dream, the reader’s prediction and the fact that she had a feeling that something bad was going to happen. My grandmother asked my Uncle Alton to look out for his sister-- he was a Chicago Police Officer, one of the few Black ones in the city at the time. He assured my grandmother that he would do all he could to keep her safe; he assumed that Raymond would use her birthday party to show his face.
He invited several of his police officer friends, both Black and White officers. They would all ensure that Raymond would not cause trouble that night.
The night my aunt was murdered, she was working overtime at the salon to prepare for her party. She wanted to make sure that she would have that was needed to make her big night a success.
It was two days before her 28th birthday and birthday party. Minnie was leaving the salon late and was taking the lake street El Train to the west side to a friend’s house that was making a dress for her for the party. Raymond must have been watching her and likely following her for days, waiting for the opportunity to get her alone.
When she exited the train, he was across the street at the bottom of the stairs of the El- platform; she saw him too late. He grabbed her by the arm and tried to force her across the street to his car……..there was a newsstand at the end of the platform—the paperman saw the entire exchange. In court, he testified that the man and my aunt were arguing violently……Raymond slapped her but she tried to fight him back. He punched her in the face with his fist which dazed her so he was then able to force her across the street into his car. The man in the news stand heard him say, “If I can’t have you no one can. You will regret trying to leave me.” The paperman said that he asked my aunt if she was ok and if he could be of some assistance. Raymond yelled at him, stating "mind your own business if you know what's good for you...BACK OFF!....this has nothing to do with you!”
The man was older and no match for Raymond. Unfortunately there wasn’t anything the man could do to help my aunt, short of attacking Raymond himself and that could have gotten him killed. It is never safe to jump into the middle of a domestic—dispute the best thing you can do is call 911 and try to get a description of the person or persons and also a description of the car and license plate number. Though commendable, many a bystander has been hurt or even killed trying to help another person under attack.
When they got into the car, my aunt and Raymond continued to argue. Raymond told her that she could not make him look like a fool by leaving him and that he could not see her with another man even if it was her husband. Then he asked her if he was not man enough for her and then stated that he was twice the man that Bobby was and that she was crazy if she thought he was going to let her go.
Aunt Minnie tried to calm Raymond down by trying to reason with him. She reminded him of other women that she knew who were interested in him. She also reminded him that she and Bobby were still married and that she should be with her husband. She said again that there were lots of single women he could be with but this only made Raymond angrier and he began to threaten her.
Minnie told Raymond that he was scaring her and for him to stop the car and let her out. He pulled off into the park and when the car stopped she tried to get out. He grabbed at her, but she slipped out of her coat and made it out of the car. He got out and came after her. While she was running and trying to get her bearings, she was still quite shocked and dazed from the punches he had given her. When she looked around and saw him coming after her, she started to run again. He ran after her, caught her and grabbed her by the hair. Then he pulled her head back and cut her throat, just like that!
She fell to the ground and he left her where she fell, without her coat in Chicago in December on the ground to die! Two days before her 28th birthday, two weeks after the visit to a reader with her mother and sisters, my Aunt Minnie Lee Curtis died alone on the ground in a park. The coroner said that she was likely dead before she hit the ground……….
During his trial, Raymond Jessie testified that my aunt begged for her life. Those pleas obviously fell upon deaf ears. Part of Raymond’s obsession was that he would rather see her dead than with another man.
It is important to have some understanding of stalking behavior if you feel that you are being stalked. The type of behavior that Raymond Jessie exhibited when he was dating my aunt has a direct correlation to how he received the news of the breakup.
Raymond’s behavior was stalking, more precisely Love Obsessive Stalking. This type of stalking behavior is present when a stalker obsesses over his or her victim in an attempt to make them participate in the illusion and act out the role assigned for them in the stalker’s imaginary world………..






Wednesday, October 10, 2012



What does that mean exactly?  As is the case with most months that are set aside to talk about important issues, most of which, as a society, we would rather not discuss, we victims advocates devised a plan to encourage America to talk about hard topics, by giving it a MONTH of attention.

I don’t know off hand of any organization that has done as thorough a job of making an awareness month an event as Susan Komen; you would have to live on the moon to not know that October is Breast Cancer awareness month!

October has been Domestic Violence Awareness month since 1994, and although most people have no idea that it is, or likely care what it means to families who have lost someone they love to this crime; we celebrate the opportunity to educate our community about this crime.

 Our society has done a very good job of putting this crime into an “it will not happen to me category” when in fact it is happening to hundreds of thousands of young men and women across our country every day. Parents are sending their children away to college and losing them to relationship violence. These unsuspecting parents are so blindsided by this crime that they do not have a clue what happened to their child or why it happened!

It is my dream that each and every awareness month results in just that; people learning how to recognize the signs that a loved one is in trouble. It is also my dream that the awareness of domestic violence be so widespread that people know how to access the resources needed to talk about the problem with their loved one, help them work though it and yes, perhaps save their LIFE!

However, it is still but a dream. I went to a domestic violence awareness month press conference in the Dallas area today at City Hall. It had all the pomp and circumstance of a huge event: there were pictures taken and speeches made. They even had purple cake!

There was talk about task forces and plans to add resources and services for victims of domestic violence; how excited I would be if only I understood how to take advantage of these services. As an abuse survivor and having experienced the loss of a loved one to domestic violence, it would have been great to know that even I could get counseling , legal and/or medical help, or some resolution to my pain, but alas, there was none of that!

This day was supposed to be about taking photos and letting the voters know that the City,  the City Council, the Mayors office and countless other agencies are there for us victims and survivors; well maybe not those of us  that were in the room because they never ACTUALLY SPOKE to me. Perhaps I was looking too healed or my expression was not one of a woman who has lost her sister, cousin and aunt to relationship violence, or maybe I did not have the look of a woman who has survived a physically abusive marriage. So, I passed on the purple cake and the option to take photos with the councilmen and women and opted to come home and talk to you guys about my hopes. I am hoping that if we actually talk about this crime and provide resources to victims and their families that perhaps, they will get the help they need. I’m hoping that if we share information on how to be safe, maybe someone you know, perhaps a daughter or son, will read the information, listen to the warnings, and actually take the steps necessary to be safe on that blind or first date.

 Or perhaps we will take a look at a crime that is killing millions of women and children in our country and say, “ok, enough”, we have had enough of senseless loss of life and we are going to talk about this in the schools, at church, in our book clubs and so on!

Again my dream for the future is a future without relationship violence, where men will take responsibility for their behavior and stop hurting the people they say they love. Since NONE of my wishes are coming true for Domestic Violence Awareness month this year, I will continue to work, hope and pray for the future.

If you need help and resource information for a friend or family member who is in a violent relationship, or if you have questions about what support is available for victims or survivors of a violent crime, please visit our website


Tuesday, September 25, 2012

      Noelle Sterne, Ph.D. Academic and dissertation coach, consultant, editor

In this book, Ms. Greene demonstrates a wisdom about domestic violence borne of tragedy. She understands from the stories of her relatives, and her own, how ultimate trust can become the ultimate violation. She learned the hard lessons herself and quickly took steps to extricate herself. But sorrowfully, she could not help her relatives…………………………..




                             Read what people are saying about my new book!

Author and Writer Jennifer Brown Banks

In an effort to end this social plague, and to increase awareness of Domestic Violence, the Ina Mae Greene Foundation is proud to announce the upcoming release of “Blood Relatives” by Darlene Greene. This timely guide is part memoir, part self-help, part resource manual. More importantly, it’s a compelling read that could help save a life. Your purchase and support will allow us to continue this important work for women everywhere, and to make Domestic Violence a thing of the past.

Clara Freeman is a writer and author who use her voice to advocate for the rights of women, children and the elderly.

“Every 7 seconds a woman is beaten and abused by a partner or ex-partner. Every 48 hours a woman is being murdered in the United States and 25% of all homicides in this country of women between the ages of 15-24 are relationship or dating related.”

Darlene Greene knows about these and other related statistics when it comes to domestic abuse and violence against women and girls. She is a survivor of domestic violence.  In her book, Blood Relatives: Breaking the Cycle; Breaking the Silence, Darlene opens a vein and bleeds her painful truth, which includes the turmoil and questions that would come in the aftermath of the violence inflicted upon a beloved cousin, aunt and younger sister.



Wednesday, September 19, 2012


Boys to Men

                                Dear Supporters,
               My original plan for today was to blog about the emotional interview of Evelyn Lozada by Lyanla Vanzant; HOWEVER, Something more pressing came to my attention this afternoon when my adult children shared with me that a young man who they went to high school with; who my son played basketball with in high school, left a convention in downtown Dallas Saturday afternoon where my son spoke with him briefly and by all indications went home and hung himself! This young man was 28 years old¸ the same age as my son Jason; I will not mention his name out of respect for his family because as of this writing they had not buried him.
                According to Psychology Today young men are more likely to commit suicide than young women. How and why does something like this happen? According to one study the possible main factors for suicide revealed by the participants were: Coping with boy-girl relationships, family issues and stress from school work. More male than female participants indicated relationships with the opposite sex as a contributing factor to the suicide problem. More than any other ethnic group, Chinese students mentioned school work as a main factor in suicide. The same study shows that young men are less likely to seek help during times of emotional distress.
                How much pain could this young man have been in to take his life in this manner? As parents we all live for the day when our children leave home and start to make a life for themselves. But how do we prepare them for what they are really going to face in this world? When life gets hard, and it will, what will our children have to fall back on to insure they have the tools to work through the problems of this world? I do not have  all the answers, oh how I wish I did, I can only tell my children to stay close to God in times of trouble (Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me) John 14:1.
                My heart goes out to this young man’s family; I cannot imagine the pain they are suffering right now, the tremendous loss and confusion that is the legacy of a violent and unexplainable tragedy like this one.  I don’t know about you but I still pray over my son, when he is looking and when he is not!
                This world is too hard for them to maneuver all alone; you have to pray on the full armor of God for them Mothers, especially if they are not doing it for themselves! (Even when I go through the darkest valley, I fear no danger, for You are with me) Psalm 23:4.
                                So on that sad note I leave you with this thought; our sons, although they grow in to men, they are never too big or too “grown" too worry about, too pray for or too offer support and  listen when they need an ear. No matter how hard the outside world will pressure you to let him be a man and work out his own problems, there is no reason we cannot let them be men and still love them, listen to his man dreams the same way we did when they were little boys. No mother should have to bury her child, ever, for any reason, NEVER!

Saturday, September 15, 2012



“Sometimes silence speaks volumes…”

There seems to be a culture of “condoned silence” in Black communities surrounding violence.
One perhaps fueled by a popular saying on the streets, “Snitches get stitches.”
And, of course, reinforced by the old-school expression, “Stay out of grown folks’ business.
So, we begin to clam up and shut down.
We look away when we see a sistah’ being beaten, or a teenager innocently killed as part of a gang initiation.
And we silently thank God when this type of “horror” doesn’t beckon at our doorstep.
But, that’s where we’re wrong.  It is our problem.
You see, every time that a kid is killed, it robs us of our collective strength and progression as a Black people. For who knows what future promise that kid had, or what he might have contributed to society had he reached his full potential. 
We could be losing another “Malcolm” or “Martin”.
Every battered woman who is ultimately murdered represents a loss to our church families, to our workforce, to our legacy.  And her abuser?
Well, that’s one more Black man populating the prison roles, adding to yet another broken home and fatherless kids.  
Statistics show that fatherless boys are more likely to become involved in gangs and violent behavior.
So the cycle continues…which leaves us right back where we started.
 It becomes our problem because it makes our communities battle grounds where nobody is winning, and the innocent often serve as casualties.
It’s a problem, because our tax-paying dollars finance prisons for perpetrators, and welfare rolls for many single-parent households.  
But, it doesn’t have to be this way. Together we can make a difference.
Stand up. Speak out. Volunteer. Donate.
“Nobody can do everything. But, everybody can do something.”

In an effort to end this social plague, and to increase awareness of Domestic Violence, the Ina Mae Greene Foundation is proud to announce the upcoming release of “Blood Relatives” by Darlene Greene. 
This timely guide is part memoir, part self-help, part resource manual.
More importantly, it’s a compelling read that could help save a life.
Your purchase and support will allow us to continue this important work for women everywhere, and to make Domestic Violence a thing of the past.

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Ina Mae Greene Foundation Honors National Grandparents’ Day


September 9th marks National Grandparents’ Day.

A time to recognize and reflect upon the richness that grandparents add to our quality of life, and the legacy they provide for future generations.

Their supportive roles not only help to build strong families, but strong communities. From being caretakers, to cookie makers, to secret keepers, they hold a special place in our hearts.

Few would argue, that growing up, they spoiled us, spanked us when needed, and shared stories and lessons that remained with us well into adulthood.

Their sacrifice is often endless.  In fact, many of today’s grandparents are spending their “golden years” as custodial guardians, raising their kid’s kids. This resulting from young parents being addicted to drugs or alcohol, battering in the home, and transient lifestyles. They are modern day heroes.
Grandparents give us roots and wings.
Though we can never repay the debt owed to them, National Grandparents’ Day at least affords us the opportunity to show our love and say thanks.

The Ina Mae Greene Foundation wishes a Happy Grandparents’ Day to all grandparents across the nation!

Please feel free to share your thoughts or thanks as well.

For more information and resources on grandparents, visit:  

Thursday, August 30, 2012

Domestic Abuse in the Home can effect Children

He Has His  Mothers Eyes
Dear supporters,
I had a call today from the grandmother of a child who is living with domestic abuse. She wanted to know how her grandchild was being effected by the behavior of his parents.
I explained that there can be more than one victim of relationship violence in the home. 70% of the time when a man is abusing his wife he is also abusing his children!
All children are effected by the violence in their homes. Regardless of whether or not your children have been physically abused, watching their mother being battered is a frightening experience. Children from violent homes can exhibit a variety of behaviors. Some may "act out" and may be viewed as delinquent. Others work very hard to excel at every endeavor in an attempt to keep the family peace. Living with violence creates intense stress for a child. Below is a list of some behaviors that are frequently associated with children from violent homes.
Children often imitate behaviors they witness. Generational transfer of violent behavior and emotional dependency on others is common, thus, children learn that violence is an acceptable behavior and an integral part of intimate relationships. Children may become abusive adults or accept domination and control as a normal part of intimate relations. Children raised in an abusive environment may be abused as adults.
 We at the Ina Mae Greene Foundation-For My Sisters, are not only working to raise awareness about the crime of relationship violence in our country, we are also working hard to educate the community about the negative effects domestic violence has  not only the victims, but the family of the victim as well. At IMGF we direct victims of abuse  to resources and help services so that she can move away from the violence, heal and go on with life, safely, protecting herself and her children from further abuse.
If you know someone who is living with abuse, please help by letting her know there is a way out.
Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233, or visit our website, http//, for more infomation on how to help someone you love who is being abused!
....."because the road to safety should not be a dead-end"!


Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Having one of those days?

Dear supporters

Have you ever had ONE OF THOSE DAYS! That day when there is so much confusion and drama in your life, so much going on that you don’t know if “you are going or coming” as my grandmother would say; I am having a day like that today, but I will not despair because I know where my help comes from; “the riddles of everyday living are not too difficult to solve if we look for answers in the right place”.

 When we have questions, we should consult God's word, we should seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit and we should trust the Council of God-fearing friends and family members. Are you facing a difficult day? Take your concerns to God and avail yourself of the messages and mentors that He has placed along your path. When you do God will speak to you in His own way and in His own time, and when He does, you can most certainly trust the answers that He gives!

Ladies I am reminding you and myself that this is just one day in our life journey, I trust and believe that tomorrow will be a brighter day!

This is a day that the LORD has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it,

                                                          Psalm 118:24

Friday, August 24, 2012

Pearls and Purses!

Date: Friday, September 14th, 2012
Time: 12:00 - 2:00 p.m.
Location: Victory Grill
(2501 N. Houston St., Dallas, TX 75219)
Registration only $25.00
Guest Speakers include:Michelle Morgan, Director of "One Safe Place, Melissa Finch, Chair of the Dallas Crime Victims Council and Darlene Greene, Founder-Ina Mae Greene Foundation
Also joining us as Mistress of Ceremony is Dede McGuire, co-host of the Doug Banks Morning Show V-103 FM Radio and Skip Chetham and the Playground Morning Show on K105.5 FM.

Register today at

Monday, August 20, 2012

Life Lessons

Dear supporters
We are going to start something new in the way of sharing and supporting each other as sister friends through our blog, not only in the fight against relationship violence, but because sometimes in order to meet our daily life demands as women, we need a few words of encouragement, along with the reassurance that we are not alone in our life challenges.
I will be submitting a series of prayers , inspirational motivations and life lessons  each week from different sources; they will come from books I have read, the bible, along with contributions from my family, friends and supporters.
If you have words of wisdom, please do not hesitate to post and share your thoughts, visions and prayers with us.
My best to you always
Darlene Greene-Founder
Ina Mae Greene Foundation-For My Sisters
……because the road to safety should not be a dead-end!

Dear supporters

This evening my family and I went to the theater to see the new Sparkle movie starring Whitney Houston and Jordin Sparks. The music was fierce and the story was as entertaining as the original movie starring Irene Cara. However the writers and producers did make some significant changes in the story line, although the message remained the same, that "life is going to throw obstacles in your path on this journey, but not to give up on your dreams, no matter how high you aim, prayer, hard work and determination will help you to see your dream on to fruition"!

However, referring back to the story line, something new to the script was a domestic violence scene that should have been hard to watch, but instead of being shocked and horrified by what they were witnessing, there were people in the audience who were actually laughing! I am not sure if other parts of the movie were intended to be funny or comical, but I am certain it was not THAT ONE!
The character performed by actress Carmen Ejogo, (Sister) did a superb job in that particular scene as a victim of relationship violence, as did her abusive future husband, played by actor Michael Epps (Satin).
Perhaps because I am working with victims and survivors of relationship violence every day, I know the pain and humiliation that this crime brings, along with thousands of deaths of the women and children in our country who are victims ; not to mention that often it takes years of hard work for abuse survivors to start healing and recover from the very real life horror of domestic abuse and relationship violence, so perhaps I was over sensitive about the scene and the reaction from the audience.

I am sure that those young men and women didn’t know like I know that every seven (7) seconds in our country a woman is beaten and abused by her intimate partner, or that every 48 hours a woman is murdered by her partner or ex- partner, or that 25% of all homicides in this country of young women ages  15-24 are relationship or dating related.

That is why we at the Ina Mae Greene foundation are working so hard to raise awareness about the crime of relationship violence in our community and in our country; that is also why we are constantly researching new resources everyday so that we can share that information with victims and their families.

The sad end to my story is that it was not only men who were laughing but young woman as well!  It is most obvious that we have our work cut out for us, and that we have a long, long way to go before we can say that this crime is on the decline and fewer women and children are living in fear for their life while in their own homes.

For more information or to help someone you love who might be going through relationship violence, visit our website

Friday, June 22, 2012

Share Your Stories...Shed Some Light.

Do you have a story of survival or inspirational tips that you would like to share with our readers?

We'd love to hear from you.
In keeping with our mission of providing information to those who have been victimized by domestic violence, we encourage you to share words of healing too.

Perhaps what you contribute might help someone else feel more hopeful about their future or less fearful of their current situation.

Feel free to share a scripture that maybe helped you during difficult times, a poem that you wrote to bring closure to a painful past, or simply a personal story with a happy ending. It can be your story, or that of a close friend or relative.

Stories can be posted anonymously, if you desire to maintain privacy.
Simply click on the "comments" section below and let us know what's on your mind.

Monday, June 18, 2012

Welcome to Ina Mae Greene Foundation-For My Sisters Blog

We are here to serve you. Whether you are in need of answers, resources, or a new beginning. Ina Mae Greene Foundation has assisted countless women and families to relocate and reclaim their lives and their dignity. You are not alone. Domestic violence affects millions of women every year, and can have deadly consequences without proper intervention, reliable information, and an effective escape plan.

Let us help you transition to the type of life you desire and deserve.
"A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step."
Start today.